Why Its Still A Big Issue To Many

For the longest time, virginity has been known to symbolise chastity and purity. A virgin would automatically be passed of as someone of high morals and admirable behaviour i.e they are not throwing themselves onto every Tom, Dick and Harry. As a result, when someone is looking to start a family they look for a partner who can be faithful to them and who society deems to be “wife material.” Virginity is considered by some to be a sure way of determining whether someone has the aforementioned qualities. That’s why this father almost choked his daughter to death after suspecting that she had lost her virginity. In some nations there are ceremonies to celebrate someone’s virginity. We previously shared the story of the 70 year old virgin who was celebrated in that way.

Here’s Who We Can Automatically Exclude From This Equation

I would argue that it is not fair to measure every single human being using this yardstick. Its sad that I am able to count on the fingers of both my hands the people who have fallen victim to sexual harassment by people they trusted when they were just children. Imagine that! Now, to categorize that individual as “loose” based on something that took place when they couldn’t even defend themselves is downright unfair. Unfortunately, I’ve also seen that happen.

There are many others who found themselves in that situation in later stages of their lives. A study shows that in America alone, there is an estimated 463,634 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States.

By the virginity yardstick people use to measure whether people are marriage material or not several people will already have been classified as “bad” or “unfit” based on such unfortunate circumstances.

Then there are others who have lost their loved ones. Are they no longer fit to find love again just because of their previous circumstances?

You might know more circumstances that can be added onto the list. Feel free to share in the comments.

How About The People That Haven’t Been Mentioned Above?

This is where the issue gets sensitive. Some advocate for exploring before settling as a way for discovering yourself and possibly whether you click with the person you are considering spending the rest of your life with. Others don’t see anything wrong with casual sex. Others have suggested that the virginity card is often applied to just women and refuse to succumb to those societal expectations.

Often times, these are the people that have been termed as having low moral standards and are considered to automatically be disqualified from the “marriage material bracket.”

Religion

In order to please God and abide by his high standards, some have abstained and are therefore considered “marriage material.”

However, others who say they are of the same religions have chosen not to do the same often stating that times have changed.

Here’s A Fact

Some who have married non-virgins have gone one to enjoy their marriage and make it work.

Quick Anecdote: It was in the early 50s when someone very close to my heart fell victim to sexual abuse and fell pregnant. She was just 15. This was back in the day when virginity was held with more importance than it is today. Nonetheless, her lover stood by her and was present for every single court proceeding and even later took care of her child. Fast forward several years later, they both past away this year, him at almost 100 and her in her late 80s after years of marriage and bringing 13 beautiful children of their own onto the planet.

Contrary to some beliefs, others who have married virgins have had failed marriages. It mostly boiled down to one thing, the person’s character.

What’s your view of the matter?

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View the post that caused a stir below:

Various people were in agreement with this approach. They reasoned that this approach shows that the step father of the child is genuinely concerned about the kids’ well being. Resultantly, the biological father is expected to be grateful for that and comply with the stepfather’s demands. After all, his kid is in safe loving hands, right?

But of course, this did not sit well with many other people. View some of the comments disproving this approach below:

When it comes to parenting, this is obviously not the only issue that may be faced. Parents also have to agree on the way in which discipline is to be administered. Some have expressed that they miss the days that children were bashed as a way of disciplining them as it was most effective.

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A certain YouTube recently took their time to analyse different factors that lead to a very satisfying win for the woman of Zimbabwe. Of all the countries that were on the list including, Angola and South Africa at the very bottom of the list, Zimbabwe came in first.

Watch the video below:

Of course when this is considered we make a small exception of the outliers like the wife in the infamous lobola scandal.

However, it seems that the major problem that people had with the list is that South Africa was even included in it.

View some of the comments in that regard below:

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The woman in the video denied having had any relations with the ex-boyfriend and affirmed that the father of her child was indeed her husband. DNA tests were carried out and the results were pretty interesting. Her husband was said to have a 0% chance of being the child’s father. Unfortunately, the woman had celebrated too soon.

Watch the video below:

This is not the first time this issue of DNA testing has made the headlines. After the infamous lobola scandal lead to the rise of men demanding DNA tests.

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Loneliness

Husband not providing financially

Married an Abusive Man

For Love and Affection

Husband Spoil Her

To get Even with Husbands

Lack of Appreciation

Long Distance Relationships

Lack of Affection

Lack of Maintenance

There you have it people, if you fix all the areas above you’ll live happily ever after.

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