Robert had an interview with V.Candy and at some point, the issue of relationships came up. At first, the duo spoke about the trophy wife versus the wife material debate. This debate is popular on social media and it’s based on the notion that there are women who are suitable for the club and the “streets” but not suitable for marrying or taking as serious girlfriends.

Robert Junior expressed that he believes that there are women who are wife material and women who are good just as trophies. He said he had once made the mistake of living with a girlfriend who was not fit enough to bring home.

The topic progressed to Hillary Makaya. It is common knowledge that Robert Mugabe Junior and Hillary Makaya had a thing going between them. People thought they were in a relationship since they posted pictures together on social media and the general expectation is that people post each other when they are sure that they are official.

Robert Junior denied ever being in a relationship with Hillary to V.Candy’s surprise. He said that they always happened to be in the same place at the same time but they had never had a serious conversation about being in a relationship. There were giggles on set as he spoke. Robert said they saw each other on and off for a few months but nothing serious happened between them.

In light of the interview, an Instagram user called sharleensandra said:

“Soft life ambassador hanzi na gushungo ndimi makandinyenga nekuvatera zvese plus ndimi mamuri in love nawo not iye asika”

Hillary Makaya responded to the comment by saying:

“Mashoko emunhu akamama ne heartbreak, muregererei”

Hillary’s response suggests that she believes she broke Robert’s heart and he is speaking out of bitterness over losing her.

With differences in opinions and definitions of words changing often, it’s common to have one person on a different page than the other. V.Candy expressed this very sentiment and asked Robert Junior to define what he thinks a relationship is. Robert responded that a relationship in his opinion is an exclusive agreement between people and he felt he did not have that with Hillary.

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Tinder is a dating app that was launched in 2012. I first heard of it as references in movies and romantic comedies. For some reason, it is associated with desperation and people are often ashamed to admit ever being on the popular dating site. Despite the shame surrounding it in some societies, Tinder reigns supreme with over 55 billion matches to date.

I recently decided to find out what the craze is all about. I downloaded the app and signed up for three days with the intention to try using this app here in Harare (Zimbabwe). The app is free to download. I downloaded mine off the Play Store app. Upon opening the app, there’s a short sign-up process of about 5 minutes or less. You pick a name, enter your birth date, upload a few pics of your choice and share 5 hobbies or interests.

Something that stood out to me during the signing up process was that you can share your contacts with Tinder. This is to ensure that Tinder can avoid showing your profile to anyone you might know like church members, relatives and friends.

The app only works when your location/gps setting is on. I assume this is because they mostly show you profiles of people near you. There is a verification process for people who may be scared of talking to strangers. Sure everyone is a stranger on the app but the verification process means that someone went through the trouble to prove that they are who they say they are. Verified accounts have blue ticks on them.

The concept is simple. Tinder throws up a few profiles of people on the app. These are people within the age range you specify and the gender of preference. You swipe right for people you like and left for people you do not like. If two people both swipe right it’s a match and you can proceed to talking to each other in the dms or inbox. You cannot dm someone you haven’t matched with.

Tinder knows how to capitalize on desperation so they reserved the best features for paying users. You can get Tinder Gold for 14.99 USD for 1 month, 7.49 USD for 6 months and 4.99 USD for 12 months. Gold users get to:

• Cut the long play and see who likes them without having to go through tonnes of profiles.
• Buy top pics , see who likes you etc
• 1 free boost per month where you skip the queue and Tinder suggests your profile to new people earlier than regular users.
• Choose who sees you. Only people you like get to view your profile.
• No radius limit. You can see profiles from around the world.
• Normally you can’t rewind when you mistakenly swipe right or left but Gold users get to rewind and swipe again

Most of the profiles available to me were of men between the ages of 20 and 32 although I set my preferred ages to 31 to 40 years. Most of the men did not have pictures of their faces on their profiles. The few that did had pictures of themselves in Kariba, Vic Falls or some resort in Zimbabwe. Some had pictures standing front of “big money” cars like Mercedes Benz, Toyota Fortuner, Range Rover etc. A common picture among some men was one at the Vintage Barbershop (the barbershop in Newlands where a haircut costs anywhere between 25 and 30USD per cut).

I decided to stay true to my values and behave as one who is actually dating on the site. I only swiped right for men that I envisioned myself dating, and they were a few (maybe 1 in 10). Most of the profiles I swiped right for immediately sent me a direct message. I assume this means they check the app often and eagerly wait for updates.

The first few questions are the same.

“Why are you on Tinder? How long have you been on Tinder? Where do you live? Would you like to meet up sometime? Would you like to go for drinks? If I invited you to my house, would you come over? Can we chat on WhatsApp because I’m not always online?”

(This from the person who texted ‘hi’ the second we were matched). For some reason, most men I spoke to were “new on the app” and “don’t usually do the online dating thing” but they are “trying it out” and keeping an “open mind”.

Most of the conversations I had were shallow expect for one or two that had intelligent jokes. Most of them want to know where you are and how soon you can meet up with them. I unfortunately didn’t meet up with any of the men I spoke to as the aim was to get a feel of the app and not find an actual date.

Overall the experience is interesting. It’s different from meeting someone and talking in person because you don’t get to see how they talk or how they present themselves generally. Someone can say they play golf and have no idea what the sport is all about. You see what the profile maker wants you to see then you make a decision to entertain them based on that and their looks. You’d need to be a really good judge of character to go on a blind date with a stranger.

As someone with a life, I’d say the amount of time I spent swiping left and right, and then talking would have been spent being more social. At the end of the day I saw profiles of people who also live in Harare. If I went to places I liked, chances are I would bump into someone with equal interests. I don’t think Tinder makes life any easier. I think it’s even harder to make a genuine connection online. The risks of falling into the arms of a fraudulent or predatory person are heightened. Maybe Tinder Gold is available for those who don’t like wasting time fishing around in the dark. And maybe that’s why it’s more popular among those who don’t mind the risk and are seeking casual hookups.

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Love

Before we can even get to the crux of the matter, I might need to explain why this particular story has blown the minds of many (before I become the target of politically correct individuals).

Provoker Magazine covered various real life stories relating to love and relationships that previously shook society and wee becoming more common. Stories of husbands discovering after years that the child they thought was theirs wasn’t actually. Stories of relationships breaking on the eve of wedding/lobola celebrations. For crying out loud, the negativity surrounding relationships has become big business for people like the infamous DNA Guy, Tinashe Mugabe.

So amidst all these happenings, which seem to indication that you have got to be perfect in the eyes of society before being a relationship, it came as a breath of fresh air for many to watch Sinikiwe walk down the aisle.

Sinikiwe The Bride

Sinikiwe Kadeumanga is a Zimbabwean influencer who was born with no hands and knees. Inspite of this, she found someone who seems to truly love her and is not looking for perfection. She recently tied the knot with Reuben Zhiva. Reuben Zhiva is said to have been told several times that Sinikiwe was only after his money, nonetheless he continued the relationship which began in 2017. You can imagine how this gave hope to those who have labelled romantic relationships aka umjolo as the actual pandemic.

View Images Of Sinikiwe On Her Wedding Below:

Does this make you believe in love?

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The world has watched mainstream relationships crumble unexpectedly and very abruptly. For instance, Khanyi Mbau and our homeboy Kudzi went from being #goals to Khanyi brutally ditching Kudzi and singing a song about it. Before we even got over that break up we had to experience South African based Zimbabwean model Tino Chinyani’s breakup. All in less than a month!

So of course, we have taken it upon ourselves to share tips on how to win at relationships.

TIP : Don’t be afraid to hurt your partner’s feelings…IN A NICE WAY

Before your mind starts wondering what exactly we’re trying to get at here, let us explain. You and your partner are never going to agree on everything, and that’s okay. Unless you’re brother and sister, you will definitely come from very different background and have different upbringings. So you will have conflicting opinions at times. Even siblings don’t agree at all times.

So what can you do when disagreements arise? That’s when you shouldn’t be afraid to say when something doesn’t sit well with you…IN A NICE WAY!

The purpose of such a conversation should not be to point fingers and find out who is wrong and who is right. There isn’t always a wrong and right especially since you’re two people with possibly different outlooks on life.

However, such a conversation, though difficult, can help couples establish a common ground and work towards understanding how each one in the relationship functions. If you succeed in talking things out you’re on the highway to winning at relationships.

Stay tuned for the next tip in Winning at Umjolo 101!

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I thought in the spirit of relationships we might revisit the exact moment, Holy 10 was shoved into the ‘friendzone’ by fellow musician Tamy Moyo.

Who do you think is the perfect treasure for our Hip Hop King?

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